Now what is the Blame Game Theory?
I'm sure there are better terminologies for this, but to me the Blame Game theory is a chain reaction, no one wants to take the blame for themselves, so they direct it to someone else that would not affect themselves.
See this started out as a theory I created when I was in grade 5. Every kid blamed someone else for something they did cause they didn't know them, and they didn't want to get confronted. Oddly enough, I was the victim 1/5 of the time... I was the only Asian in my school... But I never got in trouble because I was always a nerd. So the teachers know I didn't do it.
I wondered, why was I blamed... and it's because of 3 factors
1) How well did you know the person... Well I was known as the only asian in my school... so that sucked. But were ppl close to me? ....errr... I was a nerd so I had nerd friends... we didnt get along with the cool kids :P
2) How likely would they have revenge on you for blaming... I never fought back... To be honest I'm not a fighter... I tend to not fight and charm talk. so that's why I'm more likely to be blamed. Easy to get rid of.
3) How quickly can the blame shared. If someone has a huge trust background, then its stupid to blame them. My middle school classmates learned eventually... stop blaming the Asian, its not believable that he skipped school to go sledding down a hill. [Which I did... but shhh I was only 10 and those kids were stupid to blame us for it]
So if this is the Blame game's principle... how does it work?
Corporate Example: my family was sued a while back because a family was stupid enough to pour sink cleaner right next to their 6 month child. They sued my dad's company because of their own fault, and since the company closed down, hunted down my father to sue him 3 million dollars for "Scarring their child's life". First off. How does this have to do with my dad, he's a god dam accountant. Second, this was 8 years ago. Third, is money really going to solve anything. Finally, Why spend so much time and money on something when your child is alive. This is why I hate lawyers... always trying to find something unnecessary to fight about.
If I burnt my tongue on soup, should I sue the restaurant God no its my dam fault. I remember once a woman found hair in her meal, so she walked out without paying. [It was her own hair... that woman was Cray cray]
Now let's use these principles on my recent story:
I left my cellphone while changing in the washroom. [I am to be blamed for]
The Cab driver stole my phone in the washroom [He is to be blamed for]
I spoke to Via Rail [Via Rail should be blamed for security]
They blamed me for losing it [I am to be blamed for]
Via Rail says to report to no one, its your fault. [I am to be blamed for]
I speak to a different manager, told me to speak to Rogers [Rogers is to be blamed for]
Rogers told me their protection plan is a lie, and it doesn't work in real life (False advertising) [Rogers blames me for trusting their ads]
I called the police, they blamed Via Rail [Via Rail is to be blamed]
Via Rail blames me for not contacting the police with more information [Police is to be blamed for]
Via Rail then blames it on a Taxi Driver [Blue Lines Taxi is to be blamed for]
I reported to Blue Lines [They apologized and accepted the blame]
See all of this... to get a sorry. WTF.
1) Via Rail is disrespectful to say stealing is not in their location, so It's my fault.
2) Rogers does not accept blame, in fact suggest you are to be blamed for wasting their time.
3) The Police blames myself for letting this happen without copying the drivers taxi car and info, and my fault for not receiving information or downloading a protection app for my phone
4) Blue lines apologizes and contacts their whole system to find out if they track the phone down.
Major corporations will throw another one under the bus if they don't want to be blamed.
Via Rail blamed myself because they dont want to make it a big issue. When it did on Twitter, they sent me back to their email. Their email system rejected me, just like Rogers system does [They have no customer service, so you can't complain. This prevents the blame game]
So my question to you is... Is it even worth it to have the blame game? To go all the way to get a "sorry?" When we're kids, we don't know much so its ok, but now we're mature adults, and people who deal with conflicts, are Lazy Assholes. I'm not kidding, this has happened to me so many times in my life. Some people on my FB are jackasses too for blaming me about what I say online.
Like what does this even prove? That you're better than me? Ok fine I don't care. It's your life.
Why can't we stop a problem by saying, "I'm sorry, its not someone elses fault, and we will take responsibility in looking for a solution". No. It's always, It's not our fault, go find someone else".
Now why do people blame...
Companies don't want a bad rep, people are afraid to admit they are wrong... and get involved with something they don't want to be a part of.
I use to do the blame game... but now I've given up. In my office I do have a few conflicts, but I accept all the blame, I'm a bigger man than most ppl, so I can live on even if its not my fault.
People should grow up, and realize, let's make people less stress and happier by letting them know the blame and stop. Like finding Osama Bin Ladin, the search is over! [bad example]
But let's be honest wouldn't you throw someone under a bus if you didn't know them?
Would you stop a bullet for someone you didn't know?
Well... that's what the business world is like...
Some people are afraid to take blame.
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